Monthly Archives: March 2009

Life Lessons

Much like our parents, millennials have played active roles in the ’causes’ of their day. Whether a movement have political, social, or moral implications, you will find millennials on both sides of every issue.

We find ourselves thrust into debates our parents also once had, such as race and women’s rights. But we also encounter issues specific (or at least more prominent) to our generation, and ones that will be debated primarily in our lifetimes and our childrens’. Issues such as environmental sustainability, sexuality, and social security, to name a few.

No matter the issue, parents will always have an impact on their childrens’ opinions. Some of these issues will arise with toddlers, others with adolescents and teenagers. As a parent, I hope to give my child a firm understanding of any issues that come along. Much like my parents, I want my child to make up his own mind, to encourage him to think critically, and most of all, to respect other viewpoints.

I feel it is our job as parents to provide our children with a base of knowledge and understanding to help them become better citizens, better friends, and even just all-around better people.

Some of the topics I will be discussing over the next couple weeks include: teaching our child to be conscious of the environment, religion, gay rights, race and ethnicity, animal rights, treating others with respect, gender, civic participation, among others.

Again, feel free to share comments, tips, anything. These should hopefully start up next week!


Week 22/PSA

This week, your baby weighs in at a whopping pound and measures nearly eight inches, about the size of a small doll. But your doll is a living one who now perceives light and dark. He can also hear the sound of his mother’s voice, her heartbeat, her gurgling stomach, and the whoosh-whoosh of blood circulation.

Since I’m going on a business trip during the latter part of this week, I will be double-posting today. I’ve also decided to start a series of posts that will entail ‘life lessons’ my wife and I hope to teach our child throughout his developmental years. These don’t come from parenting books or academic research; but rather are the personal lessons we want our child to know and embrace in order to make him a better person. Some are lessons our parents passed on to us, others are lessons learned growing up as a millennial in the 20th and 21st centuries.

Throughout the series, we’ll be asking a lot of questions. So I hope anyone reading this will free to interject advice and/or tips, especially if you’ve taught your child a similar ‘life lesson’ (or even the opposite!). Hope you enjoy!

Quality Time

Let’s face it. In a society that demands 40 hour work weeks and is constantly ‘on the go’, quality time is sometimes hard to find.

The same goes for me and my wife. However, as millennials, our search for quality time has been a little different, and especially with this pregnancy. As early twenty-somethings (and even being married), in the past, our quality time tended to be an evening out with friends, culminating in drinks and late nights. And now, we still tend to do those things, but obviously on a lesser scale than in the past.

Instead, Parker often gets to decide exactly what we plan to do with our evenings. But through it all, I feel as if we have found more quality time together. But unlike our Baby Boomer counterparts, the quality time doesn’t consist of a quiet dinner followed by evenings in separate rooms. Instead, we’ve turned to video games. More than TV, it gives us the ability to still do an activity that is largely the domain of millennials but still offers us quality time together during the evenings.

We know that quality time is at a premium right now, especially as the days count down to Parker’s arrival. We’ve just decided to spend it shooting mobsters in the head with shotguns.

Week 21

How big is your baby? About the size of a large banana — and speaking of bananas, if you eat one this week, there’s a good chance your baby will get a taste, too. That’s because he swallows a bit of amniotic fluid each day (for nutrition, hydration, and to practice digesting), so he eats whatever’s on your menu.

I hope Parker enjoys spicy food as much as we do…we eat enough of it

Raising a Son

So a few days have passed since the initial realization that my first child will be a boy.

When we first found out we were pregnant, I’ll admit I hoped that we would be having a girl. As the pregnancy went on–and we came closer to finding out the sex of our child–I became more and more excited about the prospect to having a boy until by Monday, when I just hoped we were having a healthy baby, no matter the sex.

Now, I never thought I could be so excited about having a son. I think back to my childhood and the relationship I had (and have) with my father. To put it simply, I am definitely the offspring of my dad. People who know my dad know just how much like him I am. My mom passed on to me humbleness, generosity, respecting others, and my independence. My dad passed on to me a love for my college, sports, and knowledge, but most of all, provided me with a model for life. If in thirty years I have led the life my father has, that’s a win for me.

I want to pass the same on to my son. He’s coming home from the hospital in an Ohio State onesie, hat, and booties. Hopefully he enjoys football, baseball, and other sports. Maybe he’ll enjoy reading the almanac, too (much to the chagrin of my wife).

But no matter what my son is like, I hope that at the very least I’ll be able to provide a good model for him, much like my father was to me.

It’s a Boy!

It’s officially official, we’re having a boy.

We went in for our Week 20 ultrasound and there wasn’t much debate that we would be having a son (insert inappropriate male anatomy joke here).

So Parker Nathan it is (or Hoss, as others have suggested). I wish it were possible for me to put into words what I’m feeling right now, but to know that I’ll be having a son is almost surreal. Perhaps in a couple days I can start to actual put down my thoughts, but for now, I’m just going to enjoy the exhilaration of knowing that our child now can have a name.

Notable Dates

This may be weird, but sometimes I like to look at a calendar and mark off notable dates of the future. Like the month/year I’ll turn 30 (July 2015) or maybe the year I’ll retire (if I do the standard 30 years, it would be January 2038).

In this post, I wanted to put together some milestones for my child.

August 2009 – Birth
August 2010 – First Birthday
August 2014 – First day of school
August 2020 – First day of middle school
August 2023 – First day of high school
Somewhere in here…insert first date (if a daughter, add 15 years to this).
February 2025 – Learner’s permit
August 2025 – Driver’s License (schedule first heart attack for me)
May 2027 – High school graduation
September 2027 – First day of class at (hopefully) The Ohio State University
November 2028 – First presidential election
August 2030 – 21st Birthday (a day which will be celebrated civily, I’m sure, assuming it was anything like my wife’s 21st)

Right now, 2027 or 2030, or heck, even 2014 seem so far away. But then again, I suppose we still need to make it through these next five months, huh?

Week 19

Well, I decided not to post the What to Expect for this week, because it’s a little more discussing the changes going on with my wife. And it gets far too detailed.

In any case, our baby is about 6 inches long and is now the size of a mango. We’re less than one week out from the second trimester ultrasound which, among other things, will likely tell us the sex of our baby. So next week, the Week 20 update will include that interesting tidbit!

Apartment Searching

After two years and now expecting, my wife and I are back on the market…for a new apartment.

For the past two years, we’ve lived in a one-bedroom apartment fairly close to campus where I work and where she went to school. Obviously, it’s really all we needed. But now with the little one on the way, we’re back to hunting down a new apartment.

We’re looking for something a little more residential, away from campus (but still a close commute). We’ve pretty much decided on the west side of Columbus, so the Grove City-Hilliard-Upper Arlington-NW Columbus-Dublin area. Oh, and it needs a second bedroom.

Apartments are definitely in abundance in the Columbus metro area, so it does take some time to actually shop around to find the best ‘bang for the buck’. We had our first appointment on Tuesday. It was a nice complex in the Dublin School District, but just about 3 miles from where we live now. The apartments were very nice, but for the price, we can definitely find a better location and probably more square footage.

But in any case, it’s definitely different. Because we’re not looking for an apartment for us, but an apartment for our family. Instead of looking at apartments as a pair of college students, we find ourselves looking at them as parents. Is the apartment clean? Is the area safe? Is there enough room to accomodate a toddler? Is a park nearby? A hospital? The grocery store? Is the commute reasonable? Is it quiet?

Now that I’m starting to think like a parent, I suppose it’s time to start working on bad ‘dad jokes’.

Week 18

At 5 1/2 inches long and about 5 ounces in weigh, your baby is filling out nicely and getting large enough that its mother might even be feeling those twists, rolls, kicks, and punches he or she is perfect. Another set of skills your baby is mastering now is yawning and hiccupping. And your one-of-a-kind baby is truly one of a kid now, complete with unique fingerprints on his or fingertips and toes.

And this actually speaks really true, as my wife is beginning to feel the little one move around in there. Not so much kicking or punching, but just little movements here or there. Just one more way this baby has become even more real.