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Ending your childbearing years before age 30

I went back and forth on even writing this blog post. Making the decision to end your ability to have children is an incredibly personal one–in your relationship, physically, and mentally. However, after we made that decision, I was astonished by the lack of available information out there from people who had gone through the same thing. If you google “vasectomy”, you’re left with Mayo Clinic, WebMD, and urology websites describing the procedure, but very, very few testimonials by people who have gone through it, and if you are like me, that causes some anxiety. So yes, much of this is probably too much information, but I hope it’s helpful to someone either considering the procedure now, or expecting to consider it in the future.

I’m a medical procedure wimp, I want to know what to expect, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I don’t want it sugarcoated, I want to know what it was like to have the procedure performed from someone who experienced it.

28 probably seems young to make such a permanent decision in your life. But the plan for us was essentially two children by age 30, and that’s what we got. We made the decision pretty early in this pregnancy that this would be our last. Several factors played into this decision. First, pregnancy is not always a fun experience for my wife, and this one, especially early on, was pretty rough. Second, we had a boy and a girl, which, for us, was our “dream family” and we were excited to get one of each. Third, and this can’t be understated, but children are an economical and emotional commitment. I think sometimes the “expense” of children is overstated, but daycare isn’t, and having a kid already starting school, we really don’t want to be dealing with a baby when our oldest in middle school. We wanted to be done with that part of our lives and go forward with raising two kids into adulthood.

For obvious reasons, we wanted to wait until she was born before taking the steps to become permanently finished. Well that time had come and went, and 5 days later, I was sitting in my urologist’s office discussing permanent sterilization. It is my intention here to give you a solid overview of what went down. Firstly, we chose a vasectomy because it’s much less invasive than other forms of permanent sterilization, such as tubal ligations. It’s an outpatient procedure, recovery is only 2-6 days, and has minimal risks. Vasectomy is also a much more successful form of permanent birth control. It’s 99.9% effective in the first year, and long-term rates have failures marked at about 1 in 50-60,000. Tubal ligations, while effective, fail at a rate about 5 times more often than a vasectomy, and long-term rates actually decline after the first year.

My consultation was only about 10 minutes. The urologist did confirm with me that I had children already and that my wife was on board with it (I guess there have been a few “incidents” in the past). I explained to him that she drove me to the appointment. Vasectomies should be considered a permanent method of birth control, he said, and that reversals are expensive, rough, and not a guarantee. Anyone considering one should have discussed it with their significant other and also assume it will not be reversed. I actually expected more pushback about my age, but he seemed to address me just as he would a man in his 40s or 50s. After we determined I wanted to go ahead with the procedure, we scheduled it about 10 days later.

I mentioned earlier that I am a medical procedure wimp. So while I was confident about the procedure, I was still very anxious about it. I reported to the outpatient surgery center at 7:30 AM to complete some paperwork and was taken back around 8:15 for pre-op vitals. After sweating it out for about a half-hour, I was taken back to the “operating room”, which was really just a standard room with some extra lights. I did my best to keep my eyes off the sterile blue tray that contained all the instruments needed for the procedure. I knew basically what to expect, but still didn’t really want to see what was going to be headed towards my nether-regions.

My urologist explained the first thing would be a local numbing agent. Yes, it is a needle. This was probably the “worst” part of the entire procedure. Since the procedure happens in two places, he did one side first, which included probably 2-3 separate injections.  They did feel like very small pinches. But in my experience, a single flu shot in the bicep hurts more. It was about 5 seconds, if that, of discomfort–but it did the job. A small incision was made (there are technically no-needle, no-scalpel ones as well, but this was not one). I didn’t feel the incision at all, thankfully. There was a brief tugging sensation. It wasn’t necessarily painful, but it felt similar to getting hit there. However, whereas when that happens “in the wild” the sensation lasts for about 90 seconds, this lasted for maybe 2 seconds. At that point, the vas deferens is extracted, a small section is cut out, and then the rest is cauterized. Then maybe 2-3 sutures are placed to close the incision. This was absolutely pain-free.

After one side is done, the same process occurs on the other side. Since you’re already numb from the first series of injections, this is even less painful than the first time. A few pinches, a brief tugging sensation again, and then you’re done. In all, the procedure took about 15 minutes, though it only felt like 5. I walked out of the office on my own. On the overall pain meter, you’re talking about maybe 10 seconds total of discomfort over those entire 15 minutes. On the “pain scale”, this was about a 2, and a bad papercut is a 3. Stubbing your toe is honestly more painful.

Again, while considered a permanent procedure, it’s not immediately “effective”. Generally 6-12 weeks is necessary for the procedure to take effect, and an analysis is performed to ensure that you are, in fact, sterile. Most vasectomy failures occur because the patient didn’t wait long enough and spontaneous “reconnection” of the vas deferens is very rare.

Post-operation, the urologist was adamant taking it easy for a full 48 hours. No exercise, no lifting, minimal walking. All in all, with rest, ice, and Tylenol, you’re pretty much back to normal in 2 days, and can resume full activity in 7 days. There’s some soreness, but I really thought it would be worse. But I’m also taking maximum care, and I think if you do that, you shouldn’t really have any adverse post-op experiences.

So we’re done. And that’s it. I’ve had a very surgeries in my life. Leg surgery that was performed under general anesthesia, wisdom tooth extraction under twilight anesthesia, and this procedure. This was undoubtedly the easiest and least painful process. Leg surgery, while under a general anesthesia, felt horrible the week following. Wisdom tooth extraction was not painful, but I could still “feel” it happening, and again, the recovery was miserable. In no uncertain terms would I call this “fun”, but I would imagine every person has experienced something more painful, and in the end, it’s certainly less than 9 months of pregnancy and labor.

But we certainly didn’t take this decision lightly. We discussed the future and were both 100% positive that we did not want any more children. No reversals, no going back, this is a one and done. And if anyone is considering this, I would encourage you and your significant other reach the same level of agreement. But that’s it. It was not bad at all, and if fear of the procedure is the only thing holding you back, don’t let it.

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Less than perfect? Well yeah…

I was making the rounds this afternoon on the news websites and came across this article on CNN.com and wanted to share my thoughts.

Sharing the achievements of our children is commonplace, just as it has always been, amongst parents. Today, with the advent of social networking like message boards, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter, it’s easier than ever to share with the world the latest achievement that the little one has accomplished. Have I done my share of bragging? Of course. But that’s because my kid, in my opinion, is the most amazing little kid in the world.

But if you’re a parent, you already know that parenting isn’t perfect. Of course there are times when Parker drives me absolutely bananas. I try to keep him from standing on the couch or hitting the dogs almost daily. We’re struggling with eating right now, as Parker is so independent with eating that he won’t actually let us try and feed him. It’s a learning process, and half the time ends with me wanting to slam my head into a wall.

I’ve changed my share of absolutely disgusting diapers. I’ve seen the worst this kid has to offer. And of course that’s part of parenting. Parenting isn’t about perfection, and I don’t presume that any parent that talks or brags about their child is saying that everything is perfect.

I understand the point of the blog–that we as parents don’t often show the “non-glamorous” of parenting–but I also think we run the danger of not sharing things about our children for fear of being labeled a braggart or a “perfect parent”. I’ll admit freely that everything I do isn’t correct. I’m sure I do things as a parent that others would frown upon, and I could share some stories that I’m sure would make a non-parent never want to have children.

But I don’t really remember those things. Changing a diaper is part of the job. But I’ll remember when my son took his first steps. I’ll video him saying his alphabet at 16 months old. I won’t take video of him throwing a temper tantrum or take pictures of his post-nap diapers.

I guess my point is, be proud of your kids. It’s okay to be thrilled when they take their first steps. It’s okay to post a Facebook status about the amazing thing they just did. I’ll continue to talk about the amazing things my son does because they truly do amaze me.

But until he does that next thing, I need to go keep him from standing on the couch.

Time to man up

As a reader of reddit, I often come across a post about the trials and tribulations of parenting and expecting parents. One came across my desk the other day that I found particularly interesting.

Long story short, a man had suspected his wife of “pulling the goalie”, that is, to stop birth control on purpose without telling. As you can imagine, the wife became pregnant, denied doing it, and then admitted to it. Also, as you can imagine, the husband was pretty pissed. The first emotion he felt was probably betrayal, followed by anger, perhaps mixed with some confusion.

In his reddit, he lamented that his ‘life was ruined’, debated leaving his wife, pondered demanding an abortion, etc. Thankfully, cooler heads prevailed (both for he and his wife, and probably pushed along a bit by the thoughtfulness and rationality of many redditors), and they have decided to go along with having the child.

This story isn’t unique. Many children are born due to ‘accidents’–purposeful or not. Before this story had been resolved, I found myself more appalled at the husband than the wife. Now, did she betray his trust and do something she should not have done? Yeah. And at the same time, I understand his feelings. The discussion of kids before Parker was a topic that made the blood boil between my wife and me. It’s no secret now that she really wanted a child and I really didn’t.

But there comes a point where you just sort of have to leave that way of thinking when a child is coming into your life. My wife told me she was afraid to tell me she was pregnant because she was afraid I would leave her.

Kids are part of the business of being adults, especially being married. Birth control doesn’t always work, and kids have to be part of the equation when two people engage in adult relations.

I think what hit me the hardest was the ‘my life is ruined’ line. I’m incredibly happy to see that this redditor decided otherwise and realized that he’s going to have a child and that life goes on. But for many children born into the world, they are blamed for it. Was Parker born to us at an ideal time in our lives? No. But being his dad is the single greatest thing I’ve ever done.

Becoming a dad is ‘man-up’ time to the nth degree. You can bench 400 pounds and it doesn’t come close to equating what it takes to be a dad. Resenting your partner and kid won’t do anything for you. It makes you weak. You aren’t strong by leaving your wife and neglecting your kid just because of timing or circumstance.

You’re strong when you change a diaper. You’re strong when you can calm a crying newborn. Strength comes from picking up your child when they are hurt, or putting them on your shoulders when they want to go with you. You’re the man when you let them splash in the bathtub a little more than they should.

I’m glad this redditor found his way back to that. To understand that strength and a good life come from turning anger and resentment into love and commitment. And one day, his child is going to see him as the real man.

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Prepping for November

Man, October just came and went. Now we’re getting ready for November–for the reality of some cold, cold months ahead, but also one of our favorite times of year.

This weekend comes a trip to Home Depot, I need to buy a ladder so I can clean out the gutters, put some sealant in some places on our siding, and just generally prepare the house for the winter months. If I’m feeling ambitious, I may go ahead and collect some of our holiday decorations from the attic. It’s funny, Home Depot used to be one of those places that bored the living hell out of me. Now that I own a home, it’s actually a fun trip now.

In other news, my wife has accepted a full-time job at work. While it means hiring a babysitter, it also means better hours and a bigger paycheck. It’s a great move for her and I couldn’t be happier for her.

Parker is great. Talking a little bit more every day. Right now, he has about 20 words he knows and uses, some more than others, but that’s where he stands right now. He’s turning into such a big boy, it’s hard to believe. When he wants milk, he goes over to the fridge and says, “ilk, ilk”. When he’s done with dinner (he eats what we eat), he puts his hands up and says “all done!”. When he wants to take a bath, he goes over to the stairs and says, “Bat…bat”.

Perhaps I’m jumping the gun here, but I’m incredibly excited for the holiday season, perhaps even more so than last year, Parker’s first Christmas, just because I know he’s going to be more active and engaging this year. Then comes the thrills of going to the mall on a busy weekend to do some Christmas shopping, seeing all the holiday decorations. And the holiday beer, of course.

We’re ready for November.

Millennial Parenting and Religious Behaviors/Weight Update

Today begins a two-parter, and final breakdown, of the Pew Research Center’s survey on millennials. We turn to millennials and religious behaviors and how, ultimately, it will affect millennial parenting.

Religion is perhaps the largest gap between millennials and older generations. Millennials are, by far, less religious at their current age than Boomers and Silent/Greatest generations were.

One in four millennials are unaffiliated with any faith, more than Gen X (20%) and Boomers (13%). Additionally, millennials attend religious services less often and view religion as less important in their lives. But, it is interesting to note that millennials’ views on life after death, miracles, heaven and hell, and God’s existence resemble very much the attitudes of older generations.

68% of millennials consider themselves Christian (43% Protestant and 22% Catholic). That compares to 76% for Gen X, and around 80% for Boomers. But, millennials are really no more likely to be agnostic or atheist than Gen Xers or Boomers. The biggest discrepancy comes from young adults who left their religious upbringing without becoming involved in a new faith.

One-third of millennials say they attend church at least once a week, compared with 41% of those over 30. Those most likely to attend church were Evangelical Protestants (58%) and Historically Black Protestants (59%).

In regards to other religious practices, millennials are less likely to read religious scripture (27% to 36%), meditate on a weekly basis (26% to 43%), and pray every day (48% to 56%). But, these results do not differ much from when Gen X and Boomers were the age of today’s millennials. Data tends to show that daily prayer increases as people get older. In addition, millennials are very much in-line with older generations when it comes to the existence of God, miracles, heaven and hell, and life after death.

I think it’s not hard to show that, well, millennials are less religious right now than their generational counterparts. But, millennials are not less likely to believe in God or a higher power. It rather seems like millennials just tend to do less in practicing religion.

The biggest question surrounding these results is, as millennials grow older, will religious practices increase? Examining the data, it seems like millennials are just as firm in their beliefs as older generations, but less likely to be affiliated with any particular religion.

This is not a recent phenomenon. From my interactions with fellow millennials, we are less likely to approve of “someone or something trying to control our lives”. Religious affiliation tends to be thought of by millennials as that. By and large, it seems as if many millennials prefer to take on a personal relationship with God, rather than using a church or religious organization to help facilitate that. I actually left my original faith (American Baptist), became non-denominational for a while, and am now in the process of joining my wife and son’s faith (Catholicism). Having a kid actually very much changed my views on religiosity. I wanted my son to grow up in a faith, so I started going to church again. And since I wanted my son to be raised Catholic, I also decided to join the church.

It will be interesting to see if similar occurrences take place with millennials, as there is no breakdown right now in religious affiliation between millennials with children and those without.

Churchgoing is very much a trait that is handed down through parenting. That is, if your parents go to church, you probably also go to church, at least for the bulk of your childhood. If millennials do not go to church at the rate at which their predecessors did, it’s less likely our children will attend church as they grow older.

With such a small blip of millennials having children, it’s very hard to tell what is in store for religious affiliation among millennials. Will millennial parents continue/go back to church when they have a child, or will they continue to not go to church? The answer to this question will have a very, very heavy impact on the future of religious affiliation in our country.

Tomorrow, I will break down the final portion of the Pew Research Center’s survey: Religious Beliefs. You’ll definitely want to stay tuned for that one, because it could have a profound impact on how issues in our churches today may change forever.

As an aside, Parker had his weight check today, and grew a full pound this past month, keeping on his percentile curve (finally!). It looks like our little guy is just destined to be a string bean! The pediatrician was very pleased and so are we!

Millennnial Parenting & Political Party Identification

It’s not unknown that millennials had a big stake in the 2008 presidential election. They overwhelmingly supported Barack Obama (66%), which was the largest disparity between younger and older votes in four decades of modern exit polling.

Millennials also showed up to the polls, creating the smallest turnout gap between younger and older voters since 1972. Leading up to the 2008 election, millennials were solidly in the Democratic Party’s camp, and by the time the election rolled around, 62% of millennials were affiliated Democrats.

Since Obama’s election, that gap has shrunk, with only 54% of millennials identifying as Democrats and 40% as Republicans. As with older voters, Obama’s job approval has also drastically declined, from 73% at the time of the inauguration to 57% now. Perhaps due to Obama’s promised ‘change’ in Washington fledgling a year into his administration. Only 46% of millennials believe that Washington has changed since Obama took office.

Examining the Pew results, millennials have become critical in Obama’s handling of several issues, most notably the war in Afghanistan, with millennials the only age group that disapproved more than approved Obama’s handling of the war.

These results aren’t terribly surprising, even historically. Both the Boomers and Silent Generation, when the age of today’s millennials, leaned Democratic, a phenomenon that is not uncommon in political science; that the populace tends to become more conservative or Republican as they advance in age.

But what, if any, effects will this have on parenting? Millennials are largely the children of Baby Boomers. Yet Millennials are much more Democratic-leaning than their parents. A lot of this could have to do with education, as college campuses tend to be a much more liberal environment, and with millennials attending college at record paces, it would only make sense that spending the most formative years of your life in a liberal atmosphere would, in turn, make you more liberal or Democratic-leaning.

But already, we are starting to see a shift in party identification, showing that millennials are not immune to overall public opinion. Their approval of Obama and identification as Democrat is following a very similar curve to their generational predecessors. For millennials, 2008 was the first time the majority of us were old enough to vote, and Obama, even though his job approval has fallen considerably among millennials, his personal appeal has not. Obama, a younger man, an African-American, with his platform of Hope and Change captured the minds of many a millennial, and what we are seeing now could just be the natural disillusionment that comes with the presidency.

However, much of what the results show for party identification and Obama’s approval among millennials has not affected political values. Tomorrow I will discuss the final results of the Politics & Idealogy section and how those results may change party politics as we know it.

Millennial Parenting and Family Values

Perhaps one of the most important sections of the survey—one that will likely have a direct effect on the nation’s future social policies—came in the results on millennial views on family values.

On the whole, millennials, simply, are more tolerant than other generations in what the Pew Research Center called ‘nontraditional behaviors related to marriage and parenting’.

Millennials are the only generation to favor the legalization of gay marriage, and tend to fall more in line with Generation Xers than Baby Boomers or the Silent Generation. In regards to trends in marriage, millennials are least likely to believe that gay couples raising children, working mothers, people living together before marriage, and interracial marriages are a ‘bad thing for society’.

In looking for the reasons why millennials trend this way, Pew took a look at millennials growing up. Of the four major generations, Generation Y responded that 62% of their parents were married while growing up, compared to 71% of Gen Xers, 85% of Boomers, and 87% of Silents. A full quarter of millennials grew up with divorced parents, and another 11% said their parents were never married.

In regards to gay marriage, specifically, only 36% of millennials oppose legalization of gay marriage, bringing them a little more in line with Gen Xers, but creating a wide gap between them and their parents (Boomers oppose gay marriage by a ratio of nearly two-to-one).

Much of the gay marriage debate comes down to who we know. Not surprisingly, those who have a close family member or friend who is gay are also more likely to support gay marriage. For those under 30 that have a gay friend or family member, less than a quarter oppose marriage equality. And millennials are also more likely to have a close friend or family member that is gay (54%), compared to 46% of Gen X, 44% of Baby Boomers, and 26% of the Silent Generation.

As with most issues, thoughts on gay marriage split among demographics, with women more supportive than men, Democrats and Independents more supportive than Republicans, etc. (the topic of political activism will come later), but nonetheless, millennials, by and large, see quite a large gap between them and other generations on the topic of family values.

How could these survey results impact millennial parenting?

The topic of single/two-parent households is muddied. On one hand, one could make the argument that divorce/single-parent households is a normal outcome of a marriage or parenting for millennials, and therefore, millennials are more likely to get divorced themselves or never marry their child’s other parent. But one could also say that millennials did not approve of their parents’ divorce/single-parenthood and will try harder to make marriages work and therefore be less likely to divorce.

Millennials, on average, are getting married later than those in other generations. Research has shown that those married at a young age (generally before 25), are more likely to experience a divorce, especially in the first five years of marriage. Perhaps with millennials waiting to get married, marriages will consist of more mature, responsible spouses and therefore a higher rate of successful marriages. Or, perhaps millennials will be less likely to get married and we will see more single-parent households. The data is, well, forthcoming.

The topic of gay marriage is one that I’ve blogged about a few times (here). My wife and I will talk to Parker about this issue; that not only can marriage exist between a man and woman but it should also be allowed to exist between two men or two women. And it would appear that the majority of our millennial counterparts feel the same way.

If you go back to Political Science 101, you will see that values are most often passed to someone through two structures: family and peers. That is, introduction to certain values and very often, opinions on values, will shape to the opinions around. If your parents and friends support gay marriage, you will probably be more likely to.

I know growing up, I wasn’t entirely supportive of gay marriage, mostly because I grew up in an evangelical area of the country where homosexuality was looked down upon or not even talked about. I didn’t know any openly gay people in school, so I really had no reason to even care.

But I came to college, entered a culture where gays could be open, and became friends with them. I explored an environment that had multiple views on major issues (I can’t recall much debate in my hometown over any political issue, really). During this time, I determined that I supported gay marriage, and married someone else that did, too.

To us, marriage is a family value, and that includes same-sex unions. It absolutely is a value we plan to pass to Parker. If you think about it, millennials grew up during a time when same-sex relationships were not widely accepted, but still ended up widely supporting gay marriage when they became older. If millennials can raise their children in environments that are accepting of gays, there is no reason to think we can’t have marriage equality in this country. And with that comes a whole host of secondary benefits, such as more acceptance of gays in our schools and less bullying due to sexual orientation.

Some have made the argument that as people get older, their views on many issues tend to change, so gay marriage may be something millennials widely support now, but may not in 10 years. I doubt it, because while peoples’ views may change on certain subjects, it tends to do more with issues that affect the wallet and less about social subjects. In any case, I hope this is an issue that millennials are preparing to discuss with their children, either way. Even if some millennial parents don’t support same-sex marriage or relationships, I hope at the very least, homosexuality is discussed and children are told not to treat their gay friends and peers any differently because of their orientation.

I may be taking a break for the weekend on blogging due to work and travel commitments, but I plan to post again tomorrow or Monday on the next topic, Politics & Idealogy.

Part I: Millennial Parenting and Education

I decided to start my series surrounding the recent results of the Pew Research Center’s survey on Millenials with education and how it will affect parenting in the coming generations, and especially as millennials begin to have children of their own.

Education, most can agree–even if we don’t agree on specific education policies–affects very much who a person becomes. It has links to poverty, crime, and overall health and wellness. And it’s undoubtedly one of the most important things a parent looks at when raising a child.

54% of current millennials have attended at least some college, with 40% of millennials still attending college, high school, or trade school. 20% of us have college degrees.  Millennials are also ambitious about their educational futures. About half of millennials still enrolled in school want to pursue a graduate or professional degree.

It comes really as no surprise that someone’s educational goals come mostly from their parents and peers. If you had parents that went to college, you are more likely to go to college. If you go to a high school that sends 90% of its graduates onto some sort of postsecondary school, you’re also more likely to go.

College enrollment is at an all-time high, with significant rises in first-generation college students. As mentioned, 54% of millennials have attended college, compared to about a third of our parents. College has become very much a ‘norm’ for our generation.  Many jobs require a college degree now, and studies have shown that college graduates make significantly more money over their lifetime than those with only a high school diploma.

This trend will undoubtedly continue on to our children. Children of millennials are finding themselves being born to parents with college degrees. Our son was (and, unfortunately for him, born to a college admissions officer).

When starting families and settling into homes, millennials, more and more, are investigating school districts, studying private school options, and creating 529 college savings plans. It is expected that those of us who went to college (and even those that didn’t) will plan on sending our children to college.

But what about the other half?

I mentioned half of millennials have attended at least some college. But about half of us are not college graduates and are not currently in school. And this is where the data is cause for some concern. Only 14% of millennials believe they need no more schooling. More than a third are not enrolled in school because it costs too much money, and another third aren’t attending because they don’t have the time.

The costs of higher education are still rising. Tuition increases are commonplace. This is not at all an issue that will end with millennials, but something that will continue with our children. College needs to be more affordable, but what are the options? Either you increase financial aid assistance or you lower the costs of college. In general, private and government loans can cover the cost of attendance for most wanting to go to college. But to many families and students (and especially in a tough economic climate), does such a significant debt burden sound like a reasonable option?

This leads to more questions. Will college costs in a college-centric society affect the number of children a family has? For instance, if you want to help pay for your child’s college education, one more child could costs tens-to-hundreds of thousands of dollars in additional education costs. Are colleges ready for what could be a huge enrollment influx in approximately 20-30 years? Will college costs rise to the point where college enrollment drops, even in spite of a generation instilling the values of college in their children?

I suppose the answer right now is: we don’t know. But as the first children of millennials start to grace the halls of elementary school, these are all issues that will soon be at the forefront of educational debate.

Next up in Part II of the series will be the effects of technology on millennial parenting!

Study: Good Parenting Valued by Millennials

Last week, the Pew Research Center finished up the most exhaustive study on the Millennial Generation to date.

The study found, among other things, that Millennials are more ethnically and racially diverse, less religious, and are on track to be the most educated generation in American history. 75% of us have a social networking profile. 37% of us are unemployed, but 9 in ten of us say we have enough money right now or are optimistic about meeting our long-term financial goals.

One in five of us are married, and one in three of us is a parent.

And here is perhaps the best and most relevant information. When asked to name our top priorities in life, 52% of us mentioned “being a good parent”, topping all other priorities including having a good marriage, owning a home, having a high-paying career, having lots of free time, and becoming famous.

Being a good parent tops our priorities. This is the same generation that author Jean Twenge dubbed ‘Generation Me’, suggesting millennials were miserable and narcissistic, yet we care so much about being good parents to our children.

As I’ve mentioned, it’s much to early to write the book on millennial parenting. Only a third of us have children right now, but even the oldest millennials are turning 28 this year. But for ‘Generation Me’ to have such optimistic hope for not only our own future, but our childrens’ future, things look very bright.

I would really encourage you to check out the study. It’s very fascinating to see such a large scale project done on our generation. This is, perhaps, the best look at the future of our country right now, whether it be our top priorities, shifts in values, or parenting. I’m especially interested in how all of these findings will affect parenting. And over the course of the next few days, I’d like to break them down and really get into how these findings might affect millennial parenting.

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How Millennial Are You?

The Pew Research Center has formed this quiz to see just how millennial you might be!

I scored a 95/100. Sounds like I’m true to myself.